I want to actually like my husband.
I read as much as I can on marriage. My goal is to one day be in a God centered marriage and start a family. Over the years, I have attended several ceremonies, showers, and witnessed linage growth of loved ones and strangers. I have also consoled through divorce and separation proceedings, prayed through relationship break ups, and dried countless tears. The most disturbing phenomena that I have encountered while meeting the many people that I have in my short thirty years, is married people who don’t like each other.
Heaven help us. Marriage, the ministry and the relationship, isn’t supposed to be a chore. You should LIKE the person you join with. It’s a bonding process. Two are to become one, not designed to separate. Society paints marriage like salad dressing. Two individuals who get shaken together to make one unit…until one settles out and they separate again. I see marriage like the joining of two metals to form an alloy. The two metals, under fire, join and become a new thing.
When it’s time to go before God in covenant (not convenience) I want to like and love the person that I bond with. I have enjoyed the presence of God via prayer today. Before I close my eyes today, I will pray for those who are married or entering marriage. I pray that spouses get back to a place of learning one another. I do not feel like anyone has arrived, so there is always more to learn. I will pray that God’s will for marriage is restored. That the wives will submit to a husband who submits to Abba. That the nasty stain of divorce is dissolved. That healing will take place in the home.
The marriage is a strong foundation for the legacy of children. Our children either pick up where we left off, or start where we started. Lets increase the success by being the model.
3 replies on “I don’t just want to love you….I want to LIKE you too!”
Being 31 I’ve seen so many people get married for the wedding and go into the marriage not liking their spouse. You’d think it would come natural. Very relatable.
I enjoyed reading this. I agree with the entire concept. As people, we often lose sight of the JOY of being married. It’s a beautiful blessing from God. You definitely have more wisdom than many that have entered this covenant. I pray people read and are touched by this. It’s so needed.
This was by far my favorite blog from you. I agree on so many levels! Well written sis!