Before the world became addicted to technology…there was an application put in place for our lives: THE BIBLE.

That’s it. Nothing super-deep.

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Golden Honesty

The good thing about honesty is it keeps its own track record.

When you are faced with the opportunity to be honest with yourself, you then have to deal with the implications of that honesty. Are there things you can do better, and more importantly, are there things you haven’t celebrated enough? One of my mentors told me that I’m too hard on myself. My reaction: Really? I don’t really think I’m hard enough on myself. That’s probably part of the problem. Not having a realistic scope of what is acceptable and what is not. I blame my prior high achievement. I grew up not really “accepting” compliments based on things that I should do well naturally. I mean…I’m supposed to do well in school. I’m supposed to perform well in competition (isn’t that the point of rehearsal?). I am supposed to excel in everything I do, right? Well, kinda.

I have created a Ft. Knox around my life to shut people out who don’t enhance my life. That conversely means that I have shut myself in. I have walled up a huge defense system with no offensive mechanism. My football fans can attest…you can’t win a game without Defense AND Offense. Blocking out others maybe useful at times but it won’t WIN for you. My entire scope of winning was based on my past alone. Well, the world isn’t just built on my personal past. There are the “cloud of witnesses” looking down on me and either encouraging me or praying for me, lol. There are those who paved the way before me. (Good practice, know who paved the way in your particular field of endeavors) There are those who are running this race with me at the present time. They are not in competition with me, we all have our own destinies. There are valuable people in this world who are planted to help me advance. Our relationships are symbiotic. It is a true give and receive relationship that isn’t one sided. I am grateful for people who plant seeds in my life. I am grateful for those who served in their season and were plucked and pruned. I am grateful for those who are dormant until their harvest season. I am grateful for my heavenly Gardener who doesn’t give up on his little orchid in all of the delicate environments that I have lived in. I am thankful for my earthly gardeners who groomed and watched over me as I began to mature. I am distinctly grateful for my LIFE mentor who told me to STOP beating myself up. She, someone I greatly respect and admire, has gone through life and learned a great deal. She didn’t bottle it up, she shares it with others in hopes of seeing them elevated. She is a very pretty reflection of God’s grace and growth. Her words to me echo in my ears now.

In my little fortress there is one way in and no way out. That leaves me with one solution. To relive the pressure on myself, I have to decompose the bricks. One by one, I am honest about my growth. I am honest about my accomplishments. I recognize where it is that I’ve come from. I most certainly am grateful to God for the ability to see far beyond my current situation. I am going to remove the bricks of my fort and build a monument of gratitude. I will use what I’ve experienced and been taught to enrich others. I will take time for myself. If I don’t preserve the self I have now, someone else will be burdened with my final preservation. I’m not ready to lay down and die, so I have to wake up and live!

If you can share my thoughts on “living” and not “existing” then know that you are human too. Every plan doesn’t end well. Every day doesn’t slaughter your to “done” list. Each vision doesn’t come quick. Ahh, but every day you have a reason to celebrate. Start there. Live celebrating the fact that you still have life!

Brick by Brick,

Ivy Out (With special reverence to Ms. Jade Gold)


Giver’s Lesson

Taking the responsibility of encouraging people may very well be a big decision for some. Taking the responsibility of encouraging SELF is a deficiency to others. Often times, I regard encouragement as a self-less act. You are giving of yourself for the uplifting of someone you’ve encountered. The act of “pouring out”.

The gospel song “Give Myself Away” comes time mind. Isn’t that what’s taking place when you are giving of yourself to others? Do you consider yourself a “giver”? if you do, this comes natural. However, I hypothesize, based on personal feedback that “receiving” is difficult for most givers. We feel like there is no one there to pour into us.

I used to feel that way until very recently. Of course I recognize the counsel of the Most High never dissipates. (Matthew 11:28 NLT – Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.) But there ARE people who pour into you in THEIR way. Sometimes we don’t recognize others’ contribution to us, because it’s not in the manner in which we choose to contribute.

Did someone who you haven’t speak to in a while acknowledge you? Did someone send up a prayer for you? Did you get a text from a friend, or an extended conversation? Random acts of kindness do not come in the way we give them, they are governed by the person who is giving at that time.


Those who are closest to me!
My Mom and I this summer =)

Hope that was clear…it was a priceless revelation to me.

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Away With Formalities

We all have terms of endearment for those we are close to or care about. I have a nickname fetish, personally. If you are significant in my life (or have been) you have probably been called something other than your government name. None of these names are malicious or negative, they simply display a verbal connection. Our parents are no different. We don’t call them their names out of respect, we rarely call them Mother and Father…those names are harshly formal. As children began to talk…they slaughter certain words. We then adjust to shorter more simple forms of certain words. As we grow old, we form bonds with these identifiers.

I call God the Father – DADDY! (I believe in the Trinity: God the Father, God the Son -Jesus Christ, and The Holy Ghost)

I call Him Daddy because we have an intimate relationship. It’s a term of bond or relationship. I pray daily. Most of the time, for others, but I TALK to God. I tell Him about my day, how I feel, I ask questions, I converse with Him. I wait for answers. Not just when I need, or when others need, sometimes just to talk to my Daddy. That’s what happens with my earthly father. I come home (they don’t live in the same city that I do) and we catch up.

Do you have a relationship with Daddy? There is no time like the present to start one. Doesn’t always have to be a “formal” or scripted prayer. Talk to Him!

Ivy Out



Isn’t it wonderful to know that we can overflow with Joy?

Have you ever been so full, you thought you would burst? I have. Yesterday was one of those days. Now don’t get it twisted…as a human being we aren’t shielded from those things that happen to us all…but ALL IN ALL my day was great. I am excited about my assignment. I am excited about encouraging young girls and seasoned women! I am excited about the WORD OF GOD manifesting in my life!

This will be short because I have another to share later…”Part Time Christians”…Being a Christian isn’t a convenient monicker or bumper sticker. It’s a WAY OF LIFE. The word says we can’t be luke warm! I remember thinking I could live how I wanted and “straighten up” when I got older…ABSOLUTELY NOT! The Lord wants your obedience to His will and way right now! There is a danger in thinking we are immune just because we know Jesus
! Salvation isn’t something we loose because of choice…but we can sure SUFFER because of choice. BUT…that’s not this post…

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Words are puzzle pieces.

Have you ever wondered why pictures are worth a thousand words? Why language…as it advanced…was filled with more words than pictures? Why, as we grow older, our books are filled with more words and pictures seem to confined to book covers?

It’s a WORD that plays into your puzzle, into the conundrum of life. (Conundrum:
According to 1.
a riddle, the answer to which involves a pun or play on words, as What is black and white and read all over? A newspaper.
anything that puzzles.
Origin: 1590–1600; pseudo-L word of obscure orig.)

Words create our pictures! I can’t help but celebrate the fact that words are immortal! The Word of God, is written in the Bible. It has transcended ages…once orally spoken…then written to continue its mission.

It’s is in this vein that I address the WORDS coming out of our mouths! WHY, speak negative things into our lives? Some of us do it unconsciously. We’ve create this pattern for so many years that its an automatic response! RECONDITION your reactions!

Proverbs 18:21 tells us that the power of life and death is in the tongue. Creation begins in the heart…out of your heart you speak. It’s time to create the fertile ground for greatness, SPEAK IT! When stuff happens, SPEAK AGAINST THE NEGATIVE. Practice today..just say positive things today! I promise the sheer positive energy of a great WORD environment will make you smile!

Ivy Out


Passionate on Purpose

WHOOOOAAA NELLY!! How many times have you heard that from a 29 year old? Seriously, when you YIELD to the Holy Spirit URGING you to move forward with your purpose…the provisions line up. 

There is something inside of you that isn’t for you. It’s for the masses. WE have to be unselfish with our gifts. Sometimes the biggest blessing, is being available for the right person to align with you. I don’t want to sound spooky or deep, but obedience will unlock that hurdle you’ve been climbing alone. You don’t have to struggle uphill…JUST MOVE WHEN GOD SAYS MOVE.

I met a young lady by the name of Darnel Williams about eight or so months ago. I didn’t know that we would be business partners. I didn’t know that we had the same passion for seeing women uplifted. The same passion to educate young girls on the value of “being a lady”. I am so grateful that I have yoked up with someone in a mission to elevate all women spiritually, mentally, and holistically. Image is a reflection of you and it requires introspection. So Fierce.Elegant.Posh and Spiritually Sound (PEARL IMAGES) =)

 Find Darnel at

JUST A SNAPSHOT: Game Changers Unite

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Gratitude shifts your MOOD!

As a parent, would you give your child more of something that they didn’t appreciate? (“Good parenting” & common sense says NO) If not, why would God give us more money… If we can handle our current situation? Why would He give us mortgage if we are ungrateful for our apartment?(Surely, these are random examples, insert thing you want here!) To be frankly honest, gratitude also signifies a certain level of maturity.

It’s certainly not a strange concept to even babies. However, most people develop a “GIVE ME” spirit and not a “THANK YOU” spirit. Get back to THANK YOU! It will elevate your life, primarily, because from a genuine place…it comes. You envelope yourself in lessons instead of of depression! You can crawl out of a negative place and declare: LORD I AM GRATEFUL THAT YOU DEEM ME STRONG ENOUGH FOR THIS CHALLENGE! YOU GIVE YOUR STRONGEST TESTIMONIES TO THOSE WHO CAN CARRY THE TORCH! Its not that the situation doesn’t suck, but you can CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE!

Gratitude changes your perspective. It can reshape your thinking and your activity. Lets face it, Change your mind, CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

Grateful that you took a few moments of your day to share with me!!

Ivy Out



When life has thrown you for a loop… When the unexpected rears its head…
When it seems everything is horrible or perfect:


PRAY because we have the right to speak with the FATHER day and night.
PRAY because we are instructed to as believers.
PRAY because worry increases fear, which we shouldn’t operate in.
PRAY because it just makes sense.
PRAY because it feels good to know that God hears every prayer.
PRAY because intercession is effective for the righteous.
PRAY because we are able.
PRAY because you need to talk to God.
PRAY because God needs to talk to you.
PRAY when you are happy and when you are not.
PRAY because Jesus prayed.
PRAY because we are operating under the watchful eye of a cloud of witnesses.
PRAY because prayer still works.

1 Thessalonians 5:17(NLT) – Never stop praying.

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It’s because I’m a woman, right?

Women have the responsibility of being emotional. We have been gifted with the nurturing skills to make sure the next generation is properly cared for. We were given a certain “extra” capacity to love our spouses and significant others. We were given the precious gift of carrying life… but, it’s because I’m a woman that I feel the way I do right now.

I am curious about him. I pray about discernment. I pray concerning him. I don’t know if he knows it. When I hear from him, there is a one ton weight on my chest. Some unknown anxiety of…”I wonder how his day is going?” “Is he smiling?” “God bless him today.” 

Yes really, I think these things. I’ve always been “that” girl. I know that God has more for me than past hurts. I don’t wallow in them. Thankfully, when I’m over it, I can still be cordial and friendly. I don’t hate any man from my past. There were lessons learned, maturity examined, and ultimately each one wrong is a step closer to forever right. 

Nothing about love is logical. A friend of mine asked me my definition. Enjoy: 

Love is hard to explain. It’s more a verb than anything. It is action and forgiveness, fondness, and a deep seeded emotion that is illogical and non conforming. Love is amazing and also crippling. Under the covering of God, it is what we should possess for all mankind…in the case of my heart’s fullness…Love with the wrong person is my kryptonite. With the right person, it is my super power. 


Not grammatically correct, but honestly genuine. 

Ivy Out